5 Weeks to Be a Better Housewife: Week 5 - Romance

Todays topic can be a bit racy, so I will be as sensitive as I can!

Song of Solomon 1:2 - 4

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth - for your love is more delightful than wine.  Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfumes poured out. No wonder the maidens love you!  Take me away with you - let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers!

When is the last time your heart really squeezed for your husband?  When you felt that spark like when you first met?

Romance is an essential part of a marriage.  It is not to be just before children arrive but throughout your lives together.  But, sometimes that spark wanes.

How can we get it back?

• Power of Touch. Take that extra moment to kiss before parting - just a smidge longer than the "obligatory peck" that can become so routine.  Hold hands. Place your hand on his back. Linger. Hug.  Remember how things were as newlyweds.  Feel your heart lift.
• Power of Appearance. As a mom with 2 under 2, this is a hard one. Show your hubby how special he is by taking a few moments to freshen up before he comes home and before bedtime. For me, freshening up means changing to a shirt without spitup and brushing my teeth. You know it's a great day when I can throw on some lip balm. The little extra care can mean a lot to him as an expression of your love.
• Power of Prayer. Pray together daily. Really open your hearts to God together.  As a caution, if you are not yet married, be aware that the intimacy of praying together may be too much of a temptation.  Pray for each other while you are apart.
• Power in the Little Things. Leave each other notes. Call just to say you love him. Send a short and sweet email. Tell him you love him on Facebook. Put his favorite treat in his lunch as a surprise. Make his favorite dinner after a particularly trying day.  Do something little that he doesn't expect that would bless him.
• Power in Connection.  Connect throughout the day.  If you cannot call, email, or text, look at a picture of him. Take a moment to think about how much you love him as you do laundry or dishes.
• Power in the Fortress.  Make your bedroom a fortress. No, I don't mean with bars and locks.  Make the room about connections and romance. Do not allow arguing in the room. You may decide to not allow TV in the room or to not allow children in the room - that's up to you and your family.  But please, keep arguments out of the bedroom.  Do not go to bed angry. Ever.

Those are just  a few ways to rekindle the romance.  Check out some fantastic resources that go into a bit more detail than I am willing to on this blog!

• Intended for Pleasure - Wheat
• Feminine Appeal - Mahaney
• The Excellent Wife - Peace
• The Power of a Praying Wife - Omartian

How do YOU keep the spark alive in your marriage? 

(These resources are through my Amazon Affiliate link - I get paid a small commission for purchases made through my links. See my post Why Ads for details on how these funds will be used.)